Why Our Society Is Sick

Our society is sick.

The news lately seems to be flooded with accounts of bullying, rape, murder and suicide. There is the tragic story of Rehtaeh Parsons, a 17-year-old high school student from Halifax, Nova Scotia. According to news reports, this beautiful young girl was gang raped, ignored when she reported it to the authorities, and then brutally harassed and bullied after photos of her rape were circulated on the internet by the perpetrators. Even then, the boys were not held accountable, and the bullying continued after the girl moved until she finally hanged herself.

Rehtaeh’s case is almost identical to Audrie Pott, a 15-year-old girl in California who hanged herself when she was also gang-raped and then pictures posted online to humiliate her. These cases, of course, have come to light on the heels of the infamous Steubenville, Ohio rape case.

While teen suicide is not a new problem (I used to be a volunteer counselor for a teen suicide hotline) the advent of social media has taken teen pressure to a whole new level. Unfortunately, this new technology hasn’t come with social guidelines.

In itself, these stories are shocking and disturbing, and countless commentaries will certainly be written about them. What I find most troubling is how the communities these girls lived in responded when these pictures and acts were posted. The deeper question is how society responds, or fails to respond to these kinds of situations. Specifically, is there is a growing tolerance for socially harmful behavior that may stop just short of being legally prosecutable?

While the legal aspects of these cases are being pursued, what do these cases say about our society? I think the vast majority of people would agree that “wrong” behavior in our society is escalating out of control. The question being asked more and more is, what has happened to our sense of right and wrong?

I think it comes down to morals, which have been largely discarded in recent years. Morals are not religious values (though they can be espoused by a religion). Really, morals and ethics are those guidelines to “right” and “wrong” behavior. In a sense, moral values form the immune system of society, identifying problem behavior and quickly responding to it so as to minimize damage to the body of society. But when society stops caring about what happens to it’s body, is it any suprise that more and more people feel disconnected to that body? In the wake of the social revolutions of the past few decades, I believe our society has been left with a deep void of moral values.

So when I say that our society is sick, this is what I mean: that our society has the cultural version of AIDS.

While there is no easy definition of what makes for a healthy society, a body that attacks itself and does not protect itself from toxic contaminants is clearly not healthy. The most important first step in fighting off an illness is to recognize not only what is causing the sickness, but in this case why the body is not fighting it off. So one of the most important things that we as writers (to my writer friends) can do then is to try to boost that immune system, and hope the body starts taking better care of itself.

It’s beyond the scope of a blog post to provide the answers. But perhaps it can help clarify the problem.

2 Responses to “Why Our Society Is Sick”

  1. Steve

    I agree with most of your post here. I believe that it is obvious to most people that there is something wrong with our society. My youngest son is very outgoing and says hello to everyone that walks past our house, and even people do not know how to respond.
    I mean how could people forget how to acknowledge a 4 year old neighbor saying hello to you? All you need to do is smile and say hi back.
    I am sorry, but if people can not say hi to a neighbor, I am sadly not surprised that they can/will not come together for someone hurt/harmed in the community. In the time of burying ourselves in TV and video games to forget the world, perhaps we should not expect much else.

    As far as the parents of the boys accused of doing something like this, I would confront it as a father. I can not imagine what these boys mothers are thinking, but they did raise these children.

    reply
  2. Bridget

    I agree with all of what you said. But I disagree that it is a fixable problem. I also believe the media has a part to play. If the local news had latched onto the “RAPE” as strongly as they did to the “SUICIDE” and made as big a deal out of that headline….there probably would not have been the second. Why did they not? Because our society as a whole responds to the headline that invoves a FATAL tragedy. Not so much just a brutal one. How sad that it is BETTER ENTERTAINMENT for the brodcasters to say how tragic it is that she killed herself over bullying……and the rape? Is not a 15 year olds indoctrination to our societies brutality via a gang rape not brutal enough?? Apparently not.

    On the other side of this token…I would cation the father of that 4 year old boy who is so innocent and freindly, a very nice idea, but not to practical in this day & age. I would fear him becoming the next dissapeared raped child found on the side of the road. The truly sad part of this is that OUR society is full of pedophiles, mean older mentally disturbed adults, cruel disturbed yooung children, the list goes on. How many shocking cases of children killing children to “see how it felt”. It is far safer for children in this day & age to be taught caution of your neighbors-rather than friendliness. Unless you have a VERY HIGH FENCE!!!

    reply

Leave a Reply